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Relationship Advice for Women from Some Random Guy.

Matt Salis
7 min readSep 9, 2020

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I know that not all guys are the same, and stereotypes are dangerous.

But after what I’ve seen and learned, I don’t know why all women aren’t lesbians. Guys sure make relationships harder than they have to be.

To avoid countless comments about the dangers of stereotypes and generalizations, I’m going to share my specific experiences derived from 47 years of penis ownership, and 23 years of marriage.

Through the work I do, however, I have exposure to the stories of hundreds of other people struggling to flourish in their relationships. While I’m sharing here the specifics of my marital interactions, please know that I believe a lot of my behavior to be nearly universal among the males of this species. Also please know that while I used “penis” and “exposure” in the same paragraph, there is nothing graphic or perverted to follow. Unless, of course, you find a man talking about his feelings to be perverse.

My wife and I have struggled mightily, and most of it was my fault. For two decades, you could not have convinced me of the significance of my role in inadvertently trying to destroy my marriage, but now, I am a believer.

The problem lies, I believe, in our cultural bent away from honesty, vulnerability, and…

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Matt Salis
Matt Salis

Written by Matt Salis

I live in Denver, Colorado, with my wife and four kids. I write and speak about addiction and recovery. Please follow my blog at SoberAndUnashamed.com.

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