The Alcoholic Lies that we are all Guilty of Believing.

They aren’t really lies if we believe them.

They aren’t lies, but they antagonize the truth.

“I work hard and take care of my family. I deserve to drink,” I told my wife on countless occasions.

“Your father was an alcoholic. I don’t have a drinking problem, you just think anyone who drinks has a problem,” I said to her, thereby making my disease her mis-perception. “It’s the stress from work that makes me angry. It has nothing to do with my drinking,” I mumbled through gritted teeth.

And I believed it.

When the problem is someone else’s problem, you can’t fix it.

When the source of the problem is outside your control, you can’t fix it.

When the problem isn’t even a problem, there’s nothing to fix.

When the truth is elusive, the solution is impossible.

I have a good friend who provides group sessions and one-on-one therapy for people who are charged with alcohol-related crimes. He also has clients who he counsels about their drinking as part of child custody battles in divorce proceedings. He is an alcoholic in recovery who feels passionately about helping people, and he is reasonably well-compensated for the therapy he…